Well, the 23rd Annual Spring Sacred Path Retreat and the 11th Annual Call To Adventure Rites of Passage Retreat are in the book. With 60 participants on board we logged one of the best retreats that we’ve ever facilitated. When I hear men remark, “this one was the best,” I tend to respond with, “that’s what you said last time, and the time before, and the twelve times before that,” but I heard, “yes, I know, but this one was really something!” I have to agree. The comments that I’ve heard and what I witnessed with my own two eyes reveal that something truly magical took place that changed men to the very core. Over the course of the weekend men of all ages approached me and stated that they were experiencing a profound transformation. More than one person exclaimed, “I am a changed man!”
Well-deserved credit should be given to the men of the Wisdom Council that staffed this retreat. I acknowledged during the closing community session that each of the men is like an individual facet of a diamond that sparkles radiantly because each of the facets reflects the light so brilliantly. I am very grateful to Steve Branker for his leadership in taking the helm of the CTA part of the retreat so that I could spend the time with the men on the SP side of the event. He did an extraordinary job. And, we wouldn’t have even had a CTA retreat this year if it weren’t for the fund raising efforts of Richard Biren. Andrew poured water for 4 sweat lodges. As he likes to suggest, “suffer while you can,” and I don’t believe any of those that sweated missed that opportunity. Thanks go to the Fulcrum crew for facilitating another challenging ropes course. Herb Rubinstein, Rob Bruce and James Kocsis took many great pictures, and you can view them in the gallery and view the slide shows set to the musical accompaniment of Tommy Holmes. To all of the participants, thank you for your contribution to the success of this retreat.
Mark your calendars now with the dates of the 23rd Annual Fall Sacred Path Men’s Retreat commencing Thursday, October 21 – Sunday, October 24, 2010. Our next one-day event for men will take place at Holy Spirit Retreat Center on Saturday, June 12th. Therapist Catherine DeMonte will be our guest presenter during the morning session. Her topic is: Women 101: A Discussion with and for Men, about Women, by a Woman.
We’ve all heard the expression, “Women...can’t live with them, can’t live without them.”
Many men are endeavoring to make the most of their relationships with their mates. Some are struggling with their relationships. I often hear complaints and pleas for help to strengthen the bond, deepen the intimacy and rekindle the passion. “I love my wife but I’m not in love with her,” seems to be a far too common theme these days. Many want to discover if the passion is gone or has just been misplaced. The concern about how to rekindle a loving relationship is central to the epidemic of sexless and loveless relationships. In fact, Oprah dedicated a whole show to the topic. During our afternoon session we’ll gather in large and small group formats to further explore the material that was presented during the morning session as we grapple with the issues that are of concern to men about the women in their lives.
I trust that you will enjoy the other elements comprising this month’s newsletter. Artwan’s heart-wrenching letter, Dan Franklin’s piece on Consciousness, and news concerning the launch of Jed Diamond’s latest book titled, “Mr. Mean” should prove informative, moving and entertaining.
Wishing you a wonderful May,
Stephen
To view the slide show on the 2010 Call to Adventure Retreat click HERE
To view even more snapshots of the retreat, click HERE
To download the flyer/application for the June 12 Day for Men, click HERE
Sunday, May 2, 2010
Sign Up Now for June 12 Day for Men
Sacred Path Productions Presents
Women 101: A Discussion with and for Men, about Women
with
Catherine DeMonte, LMFT
and
Dr. Stephen J. Johnson, Ph.D.
Executive Director, The Men’s Center of Los Angeles
Saturday, June 12, 2010 from 8:30 am to 4:30 pm
Holy Spirit Retreat Center, 4316 Lanai Road, Encino
Women 101: A Discussion with and for Men, about Women
with
Catherine DeMonte, LMFT
and
Dr. Stephen J. Johnson, Ph.D.
Executive Director, The Men’s Center of Los Angeles
Saturday, June 12, 2010 from 8:30 am to 4:30 pm
Holy Spirit Retreat Center, 4316 Lanai Road, Encino
At the heart of it, both men and women want the same thing from each other in a relationship: to feel "gotten" and understood. But because we approach getting our needs met differently, both men and women are too often left feeling like their partners don't understand or appreciate them. So many men say that they don't feel valued by their women, and so many women say they don't feel cherished by their men. Men often speak of not having enough sexual attention from their partners, and women often say they don't get enough emotional connection. How can we bridge that gap? How can both get their needs met? Learn what pleases women from a woman's perspective, and learn how you can garner the appreciation, attention and affection you so richly deserve from your woman!
Catherine DeMonte, LMFT has been in private practice since 1990. She works with couples and individuals and helps people address and heal the blocks and wounds that keep them from being their most authentic Selves. Her gifts include warm empathy and the ability to get to the heart of the matter. It's often said about her that she can hear what isn't said. She doesn't take sides. She is on the "side" of the relationship. Catherine is passionate about helping couples return to "Head-Over-heels"; that place that had couples wanting to get together in the first place. Please visit her website at www.catherinedemonte.com or call (818) 880-6559.
Stephen J.Johnson, Ph.D. is the founder and Director of the Men's Center of Los Angeles, which was formed in 1988, and creator of the Sacred Path Men’s Retreat (since 1987) and Call to Adventure Rites of Passage Retreat for boys and men (since 2000). A licensed Psychotherapist in private practice since 1972, Dr. Johnson stands in the forefront of the developing field of Male Psychology and Gender Dynamics. For more information: www.DrStephenJohnson.com
The fee for this event is $125.00, which covers program, lunch, morning and afternoon snacks. Checks should be made to the order of Sacred Path Productions, Inc. and should be mailed with the completed registration form to:
Men’s Center Los Angeles, 21243 Ventura Blvd., Suite 214, Woodland Hills, CA 91364
Applications with credit card information can be faxed to (818) 348-9302.
For reservations, call Rich Manners at 818-888-8852 or e-mail: jyngleman@sbcglobal.net
Please put “Day for Men” in the subject of your e-mail.
Men’s Center Los Angeles, 21243 Ventura Blvd., Suite 214, Woodland Hills, CA 91364
Applications with credit card information can be faxed to (818) 348-9302.
For reservations, call Rich Manners at 818-888-8852 or e-mail: jyngleman@sbcglobal.net
Please put “Day for Men” in the subject of your e-mail.
To download the flyer/application, click HERE
Artwan Green's Statement on the Spring 2010 Retreat
Hey, Dr. J., this is what you wanted to put in the newsletter. It’s my personal statement, and I’m gonna turn it in to my school,.so I want you guys to have a copy also. So here you go! Email me when you get it. My uncle’s funeral is today, so I will be with family all day.
As a kid you never realize the type of danger you’re in when your parents treat you so innocent, meaning no matter how nice and sweet your parents seemed, the world would be ten times mean. In order to be where we are today we had to go through some bad things. As children we are playful, but it’s unavoidable. My mom prepared me and my twin brother for the worst of the world, as if to protect us, because my mother was of the world and didn't know any better, but 17 years later, with the world on her heart, she must have learned how to be a mother.
My name is Artwan Green, I am 17 years old, and this is my personal statement. As a child I always had to share because there was two of us kids. Yeah, on April 14, 1992, my mother gave birth to two boys, Artwan and Arshawn Green. They were so much alike as babies, from helping each other climb out of the crib to crying together. Even the cry was in sync. As we grew, we totally grew separate ways. One started to learn the street life as the other dealt with finding himself and a place called home. My tenth grade year I went from home to homeless in two weeks. My mother’s boyfriend was very abusive, and he abused me, my little brothers, and my mom. It got to the point where I couldn't take it anymore. I began to fight back, and the next thing I remember, my mom was giving me a bag with all my clothes inside. I remember seeing the door close and her saying to me, "Stay out of my life.” I then went into a world that I wasn't a part of, but I was thankful she semi-prepared me for it.
For the past couple of years I've had a fight every two days with over 15 boys whose faces I can’t tell from their fists. Having a twin is a blessing, but it also a curse, one that I must carry as a burden on my shoulders for the rest of my life. I catch the train to school every morning. I wake up to catch the 115 metro bus up Manchester to the train station, all so I can be at school by 7 so I can at least have breakfast, have enough time to get to class on time and maintain a 3.8 grade point average. It’s hard not having help, hard for me to do the best I can at school and then have to catch the bus home late at night. Then punk people walk up on me trying to fight, jumping me and taking my clothes (reminder: clothes that took me weeks to earn enough money to buy). I feel like I have to get away. I really don't want to admit this, but there are times I have to steal. It’s gotten to the point to where I’m a professional.
My best friend, I look at him like he's my brother, my twin, the other half of me, because he’s always there when I fall and always there when I need him. He will fight, kill and die for me. There are also times where I feel like people are fake. They say they really want to help, but at the same time their hearts are not in it.
You guys must understand that the most hurting feeling is to be mistaken for someone I’m not – my twin brother Arshawn. I feel like I don't exist, because not only does my mom love him and his hood loves him and his girls love him, but I feel like God loves him and has cursed me to bear Arshawn’s footsteps while I walk in his shadow. I never ever catch his blessing. Instead he leaves all his bad consequences behind for me to run into, and that’s really scary. This place called Sacred Path up in the mountains in Malibu is the only place I feel I’m my own person. Those guys prove that I do matter, and I am loved by each of them. Whether it’s from a hug to a “good to see you again” or someone right beside me in the sweat lodge saying, “I’m here with you all the way,” or us on the ropes course blindfolded, hanging stories high, you guys got my back, and I thank you all. This year when Cameron pulled off and left me at the park, I felt like he threw me back into the shadow of my twin. I don't think I could ever forget that day.
Even though it still isn't clear why my mom kicked me out, I thank God ‘til this day, because I see the transition has strengthened my relationship with Him. I truly believe without this experience I wouldn't be who I am: the most fun, lovable, coolest, kind and respectful guy I know. But the one word I feel that best describes me is humble. I've learned to humble myself and it has shut me away from everyone else I’m connected to.
With college rapidly approaching and me just turning 18, I’m afraid. I’m afraid of not having a place to lay my head every night; I’m afraid of my grandmother, the woman I love the most, leaving me; I’m afraid of no one realizing that I actually matter, and me disappearing altogether. The world is tough, and like my favorite economics teacher told me, it is dirty and is waiting to crush me. Sometimes I think that I’m not meant to bear this sin called life. I feel it is a curse, and we are bound to burn in the fire of stupidity that other human beings spark. But I do believe in change, and change may not always be fair, but it will be better. We live in a world where people kill people for a street and a color. We live in a world that proves that we are animals and will do anything for a bone. We are not dogs. We are not savages and are not uncontrollable. But one day change will come. One day I will have a place that I can call home.
The experience of losing my mom and that wonderful relationship with my family has tormented me since the day I left, but I will never go back because now I’m the world’s advocate!!
To view pictures of Artwan and friends at the retreat, click HERE
As a kid you never realize the type of danger you’re in when your parents treat you so innocent, meaning no matter how nice and sweet your parents seemed, the world would be ten times mean. In order to be where we are today we had to go through some bad things. As children we are playful, but it’s unavoidable. My mom prepared me and my twin brother for the worst of the world, as if to protect us, because my mother was of the world and didn't know any better, but 17 years later, with the world on her heart, she must have learned how to be a mother.
My name is Artwan Green, I am 17 years old, and this is my personal statement. As a child I always had to share because there was two of us kids. Yeah, on April 14, 1992, my mother gave birth to two boys, Artwan and Arshawn Green. They were so much alike as babies, from helping each other climb out of the crib to crying together. Even the cry was in sync. As we grew, we totally grew separate ways. One started to learn the street life as the other dealt with finding himself and a place called home. My tenth grade year I went from home to homeless in two weeks. My mother’s boyfriend was very abusive, and he abused me, my little brothers, and my mom. It got to the point where I couldn't take it anymore. I began to fight back, and the next thing I remember, my mom was giving me a bag with all my clothes inside. I remember seeing the door close and her saying to me, "Stay out of my life.” I then went into a world that I wasn't a part of, but I was thankful she semi-prepared me for it.
For the past couple of years I've had a fight every two days with over 15 boys whose faces I can’t tell from their fists. Having a twin is a blessing, but it also a curse, one that I must carry as a burden on my shoulders for the rest of my life. I catch the train to school every morning. I wake up to catch the 115 metro bus up Manchester to the train station, all so I can be at school by 7 so I can at least have breakfast, have enough time to get to class on time and maintain a 3.8 grade point average. It’s hard not having help, hard for me to do the best I can at school and then have to catch the bus home late at night. Then punk people walk up on me trying to fight, jumping me and taking my clothes (reminder: clothes that took me weeks to earn enough money to buy). I feel like I have to get away. I really don't want to admit this, but there are times I have to steal. It’s gotten to the point to where I’m a professional.
My best friend, I look at him like he's my brother, my twin, the other half of me, because he’s always there when I fall and always there when I need him. He will fight, kill and die for me. There are also times where I feel like people are fake. They say they really want to help, but at the same time their hearts are not in it.
You guys must understand that the most hurting feeling is to be mistaken for someone I’m not – my twin brother Arshawn. I feel like I don't exist, because not only does my mom love him and his hood loves him and his girls love him, but I feel like God loves him and has cursed me to bear Arshawn’s footsteps while I walk in his shadow. I never ever catch his blessing. Instead he leaves all his bad consequences behind for me to run into, and that’s really scary. This place called Sacred Path up in the mountains in Malibu is the only place I feel I’m my own person. Those guys prove that I do matter, and I am loved by each of them. Whether it’s from a hug to a “good to see you again” or someone right beside me in the sweat lodge saying, “I’m here with you all the way,” or us on the ropes course blindfolded, hanging stories high, you guys got my back, and I thank you all. This year when Cameron pulled off and left me at the park, I felt like he threw me back into the shadow of my twin. I don't think I could ever forget that day.
Even though it still isn't clear why my mom kicked me out, I thank God ‘til this day, because I see the transition has strengthened my relationship with Him. I truly believe without this experience I wouldn't be who I am: the most fun, lovable, coolest, kind and respectful guy I know. But the one word I feel that best describes me is humble. I've learned to humble myself and it has shut me away from everyone else I’m connected to.
With college rapidly approaching and me just turning 18, I’m afraid. I’m afraid of not having a place to lay my head every night; I’m afraid of my grandmother, the woman I love the most, leaving me; I’m afraid of no one realizing that I actually matter, and me disappearing altogether. The world is tough, and like my favorite economics teacher told me, it is dirty and is waiting to crush me. Sometimes I think that I’m not meant to bear this sin called life. I feel it is a curse, and we are bound to burn in the fire of stupidity that other human beings spark. But I do believe in change, and change may not always be fair, but it will be better. We live in a world where people kill people for a street and a color. We live in a world that proves that we are animals and will do anything for a bone. We are not dogs. We are not savages and are not uncontrollable. But one day change will come. One day I will have a place that I can call home.
The experience of losing my mom and that wonderful relationship with my family has tormented me since the day I left, but I will never go back because now I’m the world’s advocate!!
To view pictures of Artwan and friends at the retreat, click HERE
Further Comments on the Spring 2010 Retreat
Hello, Doctor!
I know you’re beat and tired and probably trying to get home. I couldn’t hold back and/or wait to express my gratitude to you and your entire staff! The very first moment I happened upon you on your website, it was during my search for the address of a doctor who a friend referred me to. I came across you first only because of the fact you are in the same building as he is in Woodland Hills. So out of coincidence I opened your site and watched your videos. I cried, and was moved and touched like never before. I knew you were the one and only person I was looking for to help me in life and to find the Path I want to get to! I thank God for giving me the opportunity to meet a person who is not only extremely Intelligent, wise, and extremely experienced, but Most Importantly loves what he does and has a special heart that one in millions of people rarely have! I am not the only one who believes this; I know now after this weekend! Doctor, thank you so much for being the kind and caring person you are. First and foremost, before you are my doctor, you are my friend. What you expressed today for that boy was so moving that I was crying while you were standing with him. I want you to know you are extremely special to me and all of your brothers who are around you!! I am now lucky enough to be a part of that group! Also, these were the 3 most important and well-spent days of my whole life! Thank you, God, and thank you, Doctor Johnson!! See you tomorrow - I hope you have a safe trip back home!
- Manuel Valencia
Hello My Brother,
You know as well as I do that words are inadequate to fully express what transpired this weekend, and they are equally insufficient to express my gratitude for your gift and my appreciation for what we accomplished with your leadership.
I think the best way I can repay your generosity is to recruit some men for the October retreat. I'm already working on three leads, and many more will follow. If there is anything I can do to become more involved or to help, I know you won't hesitate to call me.
With love,
Your Brother,
- Jeffrey Young
I know you’re beat and tired and probably trying to get home. I couldn’t hold back and/or wait to express my gratitude to you and your entire staff! The very first moment I happened upon you on your website, it was during my search for the address of a doctor who a friend referred me to. I came across you first only because of the fact you are in the same building as he is in Woodland Hills. So out of coincidence I opened your site and watched your videos. I cried, and was moved and touched like never before. I knew you were the one and only person I was looking for to help me in life and to find the Path I want to get to! I thank God for giving me the opportunity to meet a person who is not only extremely Intelligent, wise, and extremely experienced, but Most Importantly loves what he does and has a special heart that one in millions of people rarely have! I am not the only one who believes this; I know now after this weekend! Doctor, thank you so much for being the kind and caring person you are. First and foremost, before you are my doctor, you are my friend. What you expressed today for that boy was so moving that I was crying while you were standing with him. I want you to know you are extremely special to me and all of your brothers who are around you!! I am now lucky enough to be a part of that group! Also, these were the 3 most important and well-spent days of my whole life! Thank you, God, and thank you, Doctor Johnson!! See you tomorrow - I hope you have a safe trip back home!
- Manuel Valencia
Hello My Brother,
You know as well as I do that words are inadequate to fully express what transpired this weekend, and they are equally insufficient to express my gratitude for your gift and my appreciation for what we accomplished with your leadership.
I think the best way I can repay your generosity is to recruit some men for the October retreat. I'm already working on three leads, and many more will follow. If there is anything I can do to become more involved or to help, I know you won't hesitate to call me.
With love,
Your Brother,
- Jeffrey Young
Dan Franklin: Consciousness Could Care Less?
Why would I entitle a written piece with a statement such that consciousness could care less? Can that be true? It seems pretty provocative and even radical on its face. It seems lacking in compassion, that is, if consciousness were actually a person. But consciousness isn’t a person, and if we explore a little deeper we might quickly come to the conclusion that consciousness, or call it awake-ness or enlightenment is, in its care-less-ness, quite the opposite. It is compassionate, forgiving, and perhaps better described as care-free.
Consciousness, that which animates cognition and emotion, doesn't really care what state we are in or what the particular experience happens to be at the moment. Only the ego has issues with reality.....with what is. We keep tripping ourselves up by forgetting this fundamental truth, by wanting it or me or some her or him to be a particular way. Enlightenment has nothing whatsoever to do with happiness or sadness or more or less money or being alone or in a relationship...good or bad. We trip ourselves up, guard the doorway to our own particular enlightenment and block our own entrance with our interpretations, expectations, discontent and dissatisfactions. We constantly comment on the deficiency of others, their level of consciousness or how they fail to serve us, rather than simply allowing things to unfold and work with people and situations being exactly what they are. Consciousness understands that whatever is in our path is the path and is the work. Egos just don’t get it. They never, ever get it. In order for awareness to become aware of itself, our personhood, our sense of a separate isolated self that needs to manipulate, seduce, argue with and judge, simply has to get out of the way. Is it any wonder that no woman/man or situation seems good enough? Egos want more, less, different, older, younger, smarter, nicer, hotter and on and on. They are insatiable, never content, always have issues and thrive on drama and conflict. They are a house divided. I have been convinced for quite a while now that the core addiction is to thought and everything the mind grasps onto or tries to avoid. The Buddhists seem to get this big-time.
Consciousness could care less. There, I said it again. It doesn’t want or need, it simply experiences all and accepts all because it knows itself to be all. The good, the bad and the ugly is merely an interpretation, a point of view.
Let’s stop and think about it. Can we not all remember something happening in our lives, either distant or recent, that seemed horrible, like bad luck or nothing but negative, only to realize rich rewards, great lessons or a startling turn of events as a result? Ask a happily married man in his second marriage if his divorce was a mistake, or one who got fired only to stumble into a new career more richly rewarding then anything in his past. By the same token, let’s not forget the hot new lover that turned out to be more like a nightmare than a dream. I’m close to resting my case. As someone very dear to me once said, “let’s not kick a horse to death.”
Life is lived through us, and our preferences and prejudices are just that. Most human suffering comes from attempting to control life rather than relaxing into the realization that whatever shows up eventually reveals its own intention. The point is in knowing that if we accept whatever is in our path without resistance, we tend to do less harm to self and others and alchemize our experiences into something richer and deeper and more life affirming.
Consciousness knows that because it is not at odds with reality…it is reality…and it knows itself as itself if the human personality will just get out of the way. Egos fear annihilation thinking life will be over at that point. The great ironic truth is that when egos get out of the way, then life truly flows along its natural course without any interference. And what friends and lovers could be better than that? Anthony de Mello said: "Enlightenment is total cooperation with the inevitable." Enough said.
Dan Franklin, MFT / Associate Director for Counseling Services
Consciousness, that which animates cognition and emotion, doesn't really care what state we are in or what the particular experience happens to be at the moment. Only the ego has issues with reality.....with what is. We keep tripping ourselves up by forgetting this fundamental truth, by wanting it or me or some her or him to be a particular way. Enlightenment has nothing whatsoever to do with happiness or sadness or more or less money or being alone or in a relationship...good or bad. We trip ourselves up, guard the doorway to our own particular enlightenment and block our own entrance with our interpretations, expectations, discontent and dissatisfactions. We constantly comment on the deficiency of others, their level of consciousness or how they fail to serve us, rather than simply allowing things to unfold and work with people and situations being exactly what they are. Consciousness understands that whatever is in our path is the path and is the work. Egos just don’t get it. They never, ever get it. In order for awareness to become aware of itself, our personhood, our sense of a separate isolated self that needs to manipulate, seduce, argue with and judge, simply has to get out of the way. Is it any wonder that no woman/man or situation seems good enough? Egos want more, less, different, older, younger, smarter, nicer, hotter and on and on. They are insatiable, never content, always have issues and thrive on drama and conflict. They are a house divided. I have been convinced for quite a while now that the core addiction is to thought and everything the mind grasps onto or tries to avoid. The Buddhists seem to get this big-time.
Consciousness could care less. There, I said it again. It doesn’t want or need, it simply experiences all and accepts all because it knows itself to be all. The good, the bad and the ugly is merely an interpretation, a point of view.
Let’s stop and think about it. Can we not all remember something happening in our lives, either distant or recent, that seemed horrible, like bad luck or nothing but negative, only to realize rich rewards, great lessons or a startling turn of events as a result? Ask a happily married man in his second marriage if his divorce was a mistake, or one who got fired only to stumble into a new career more richly rewarding then anything in his past. By the same token, let’s not forget the hot new lover that turned out to be more like a nightmare than a dream. I’m close to resting my case. As someone very dear to me once said, “let’s not kick a horse to death.”
Life is lived through us, and our preferences and prejudices are just that. Most human suffering comes from attempting to control life rather than relaxing into the realization that whatever shows up eventually reveals its own intention. The point is in knowing that if we accept whatever is in our path without resistance, we tend to do less harm to self and others and alchemize our experiences into something richer and deeper and more life affirming.
Consciousness knows that because it is not at odds with reality…it is reality…and it knows itself as itself if the human personality will just get out of the way. Egos fear annihilation thinking life will be over at that point. The great ironic truth is that when egos get out of the way, then life truly flows along its natural course without any interference. And what friends and lovers could be better than that? Anthony de Mello said: "Enlightenment is total cooperation with the inevitable." Enough said.
Dan Franklin, MFT / Associate Director for Counseling Services
Mr. Mean: Saving Your Relationships from the Irritable Male Syndrome
For over 20 years I have encouraged my clients to drink deeply from the well of Jed Diamond’s vast knowledge concerning men and their relationships with women. His breakthrough books on Male Menopause and Irritable Male Syndrome have provided the foundation for his latest addition to the trilogy dealing with a man’s moods and how they impact those that inhabit his world. This one is the icing on the cake.
- Stephen Johnson, Ph.D.
Studies show that 50% of first marriages, 67% of second marriages, and 74% of third marriages end in divorce. As a marriage and family counselor who specializes in helping men and the women who love them, I’ve found that the hidden destroyer of good relationships is a phenomenon called “The Irritable Male Syndrome (IMS).”
“Last month a man came home from work with my husband’s face but he did not act at all like the man I married. I've known this man for 30 years, married 22 of them and have never met this guy before. Angry, nasty, and cruel are just a few words to describe him. He used to be the most upbeat, happy person I knew. Now he’s gone from Mr. Nice to Mr. Mean. What happened to the man I married?” M.L., married, age 47.
Mr. Mean: Saving Your Relationship from the Irritable Male Syndrome (May, 2010, Numina Press, $18.95) was written for the millions of women and men who want to understand how they can rescue their relationship, help their spouse, and save themselves.
Mr. Mean explains:
• Why so many mid-life men turn mean.
• What Irritable Male Syndrome (IMS) is and why it’s dangerous.
• When a woman should leave and when she should stay.
• How to get through to a man who refuses to talk.
• What to do when he says, “I love you, but I’m not in love with you.
• Why low testosterone can cause a man to change from Dr. Jekyll to Mr. Hyde.
• How IMS affects the family and how to help the children.
According to Nancy Cetel, M.D., author of Double Menopause: What To Do When Both You and Your Mate Go Through Hormonal Changes Together, “This is the 'go to guide' every woman must have to save herself, understand and support her mate, and strengthen their marriage. Men will absolutely benefit from this treasure trove of solid information as well."
A media campaign will take place in the 42 days between Mother’s Day (May 9, 2010) and Father’s Day (June 20, 2010). The goal will be to help 4200 families who are suffering the effects of IMS.
Jed Diamond, Ph.D., is an internationally respected leader in the men’s health field. For 45 years he has been helping men, and the women who love them, to overcome the stresses that pull relationships apart.
Diamond writes directly to the couple: to the woman trying to understand her man’s behavior, and often times, desperately trying to save their changing marriage, and to the man, who may feel angry, isolated, confused and more like a fifteen-year old than a fifty-year old. Mr. Mean gives Baby Boomers the tools they need to heal from the Irritable Male Syndrome and create a relationship that is stronger and more resilient than ever before.
Dr. Diamond has lent his expertise on many of the nation’s most popular television programs and most prestigious publications including CBS, ABC, NBC, and Fox News, Good Morning America, Today Show, CNN-360 with Anderson Cooper, CNN with Glenn Beck, The View with Barbara Walters, PBS, New York Times, Wall Street Journal, Newsweek, and USA Today.
To purchase the book, go to: http://www.menalive.com/mrmean.htm
- Stephen Johnson, Ph.D.
Studies show that 50% of first marriages, 67% of second marriages, and 74% of third marriages end in divorce. As a marriage and family counselor who specializes in helping men and the women who love them, I’ve found that the hidden destroyer of good relationships is a phenomenon called “The Irritable Male Syndrome (IMS).”
“Last month a man came home from work with my husband’s face but he did not act at all like the man I married. I've known this man for 30 years, married 22 of them and have never met this guy before. Angry, nasty, and cruel are just a few words to describe him. He used to be the most upbeat, happy person I knew. Now he’s gone from Mr. Nice to Mr. Mean. What happened to the man I married?” M.L., married, age 47.
Mr. Mean: Saving Your Relationship from the Irritable Male Syndrome (May, 2010, Numina Press, $18.95) was written for the millions of women and men who want to understand how they can rescue their relationship, help their spouse, and save themselves.
Mr. Mean explains:
• Why so many mid-life men turn mean.
• What Irritable Male Syndrome (IMS) is and why it’s dangerous.
• When a woman should leave and when she should stay.
• How to get through to a man who refuses to talk.
• What to do when he says, “I love you, but I’m not in love with you.
• Why low testosterone can cause a man to change from Dr. Jekyll to Mr. Hyde.
• How IMS affects the family and how to help the children.
According to Nancy Cetel, M.D., author of Double Menopause: What To Do When Both You and Your Mate Go Through Hormonal Changes Together, “This is the 'go to guide' every woman must have to save herself, understand and support her mate, and strengthen their marriage. Men will absolutely benefit from this treasure trove of solid information as well."
A media campaign will take place in the 42 days between Mother’s Day (May 9, 2010) and Father’s Day (June 20, 2010). The goal will be to help 4200 families who are suffering the effects of IMS.
Jed Diamond, Ph.D., is an internationally respected leader in the men’s health field. For 45 years he has been helping men, and the women who love them, to overcome the stresses that pull relationships apart.
Diamond writes directly to the couple: to the woman trying to understand her man’s behavior, and often times, desperately trying to save their changing marriage, and to the man, who may feel angry, isolated, confused and more like a fifteen-year old than a fifty-year old. Mr. Mean gives Baby Boomers the tools they need to heal from the Irritable Male Syndrome and create a relationship that is stronger and more resilient than ever before.
Dr. Diamond has lent his expertise on many of the nation’s most popular television programs and most prestigious publications including CBS, ABC, NBC, and Fox News, Good Morning America, Today Show, CNN-360 with Anderson Cooper, CNN with Glenn Beck, The View with Barbara Walters, PBS, New York Times, Wall Street Journal, Newsweek, and USA Today.
To purchase the book, go to: http://www.menalive.com/mrmean.htm
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